I know people who care about money, but they don’t worry about money.
I know people who care about their health, but they don’t worry about their health.
I know people who care about the problems they have, but they don’t worry about those problems.
What’s the difference?
To care is to be invested in a particular outcome; it means you have a preference or passion for something.
To worry is to fret and feel anxiety over the things you care about.
A person who worries always cares. A person who cares, however, doesn’t always worry.
It’s easy to assume that if someone doesn’t panic or display visible signs of stress, that they don’t care as much as those who do.
Sometimes it can be the reverse. Some people are so passionate about solving problems and creating results that they work very hard to maintain a calm state of mind in order to ensure clear thinking and rational decision-making.
The next time you feel stressed and you’re tempted to judge someone who doesn’t seem to care as much as you do, keep this distinction in mind.
There are more ways to care about something than through the outward display of emotion.
Experiencing a feeling is different from embodying and expressing a feeling. Everyone has feelings, but we all have different ways of sharing them, coping with them, and showcasing them.
The sooner we can accept that fact, the sooner we can get on with what really matters: working together to find practical solutions without turning the work into a contest over who seems to care the most.
Instead of taking pride in the superiority of your emotional reaction to problems, take pride in your ability to bring people together and get things done.